Marriage Perspective from A Former Single Mom
Remember when you were looking for a godly companion to walk in the LORD with?
What counsel, words of wisdom and guidance could you share with us single ladies who desire a godly man in our life?
Take your time to respond and thank you for being our Sister in the Lord.
Former SM: Well, I can say that I wasn’t looking and never did. I thought that someone younger than me, but the Lord sometimes doesn’t give us what we want, but she will give us what we need and sometimes that is hard;
but we can’t go on emotions if the person that you’re considering to be with if they are drawing you closer to the Lord, then you know that that person is for you, but if they’re not drawing you closer to the Lord and you don’t even share or go to church then that person is not for you we can’t go on emotions.
Love is not a feeling love is a choice and actions and it’s hard for me still and I’m learning and you have to remember he’s marrying a sinner and you are marrying a sinner;
so no matter what you’re going through your relationship with the Lord is first and that’s how he’s gonna show you and teach you through the Holy Spirit and let me tell you it’s not easy.
Nothing is easy when the Lord is involved in the midst of it even sometimes friendships family members we have to remember we’re fighting against the world, Satan and our flesh;
so we constantly have to walk in the spirit. It’s easier said than done, but we have to try and just go forward and just try to live an honorable life and like I said it’s not easy;
at times you’re gonna think “I do the right” thing but just keep going forward and just surrender it to the Lord leave pride to the side and just ask the Lord and the Holy Spirit to always help you help you;
that’s all I can say and we can’t look at that person as long as they’re leading you to the Lord, that’s what matters. Washing you with the word, conversations are about the Lord.
You both know you are learning and keep going forward and asking the LORD to help you.
I hope that helps. God bless you sisters.👆🙌🙏❤️😘
I hope it makes sense to you.
CA
Lydia: it makes perfect sense. I made a few notes on key points you said.
1. How to know if that person is from God?
2. Definition of what “Love” is and what it isn’t.
3. Fact - a couple in the Lord are still “sinners” and saved by grace.
And not because we are perfect!
4. Strong reminder that this “desire of having a godly companion” will not be easy.
Thank you 4 your heart to serve others …
Another Former SM:
Good afternoon, all I can say is stay busy in the things of the Lord. As He fills us up daily, we don’t think much about a “man”.
Yes it gets lonely at times and that’s when we desire that companion, but it’s best to wait in the Lord and He Will bring that man that will compliment our lives.
A man that will guide, equip, lead, nurture, love and most of all fear God.
Marriage is not hard, it’s the trials, the opposites, the baggage we carry into marriage and its work until the day “when death do us apart”.
It does not stop when you get married, that’s only the beginning of a new journey to start working towards .
I don’t know how marriages tend to work without the Lord. I know he’s my anchor, my counselor, my strength and the only one who fills me with a love that no one else can give.
Become friends before anything else. Once the friendship has been mastered, then the courting can start.
If that man, and you as a woman is willing to marry a person with all their imperfections, their past and their ugly, then you know that is love.
The Lord will open up doors that you won’t be able to explain. Then you will know that it’s all coming from the Lord.
But when you have to fight against the world for approval of that man, then that’s something to think about, because God is a God of order, peace, love and drama free. Lol…🙂
I know I prayed and asked the Lord to remove, my then so-to- be fiancée, from me if he was not the one for me.
Always check with the LORD for His direction and guidance.
MH
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